Hockey Dad Plays Field Hockey Daughter in Annual Parent Game

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA(Hockey Player Magazine, August 2013)

To understand a sport you need to play it, even if it’s against your own kid.

I watch her play, rain or shine.  I want to know how good she and her teammates are, and I’m curious as to how I match up.  Kate is unaware that I secretly practice.  The annual parent—daughter field hockey game is an unusual way to bond, but family bragging rights are at stake.

My wife and I are field hockey parents and carry on my family’s hockey tradition.  We chauffeur kids who cannot drive, lug gear, pace the sideline, and occasionally work the snack bar.  Five year olds with pigtails receive discounts if they’re short on change.  Teenage boys wearing pants below the butt don’t.  My folks, former ice hockey parents, did the same things years ago except they chaperoned boys and skates instead of girls and cleats.   

Field hockey parents coordinate family schedules, pre-plan driving routes, and haul life preserving sustenance such as food, water, and Gatorade®.  We listen to One Direction, Adele, and Maroon 5.   We overhear scuttlebutt about fashion, homework, and relationships.  The girls actually communicate without Facebook.

The game is dynamic and fast.  Players change directions on the fly, pursue the ball, and hope to establish control.  Field hockey is similar to ice hockey, the sport my brother Kirk and I played, except it has eleven players instead of six, turf instead of ice, a ball instead of a puck, and players wear skirts instead of pants.  Otherwise they are exactly the same.  Kirk and I loved checking opponents.  High school girls typically don’t have this killer instinct.  Kate is tough, but too nice.  Politeness works when passing dessert but not when passing a field hockey ball. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

Before the season started I bought Kate a stick, cleats, shin guards, eyewear, and a mouth guard.  She also needed black spandex to wear beneath the skirt.  Where do dads find spandex underwear?  I haven’t worn spandex since that one college party.

The spandex quest reminded me of my dad’s creativity before Kirk’s first hockey game.  My brother was six.  His coach inspected the players for cups, a plastic guard that protects the privates, even miniature sets.  Dad ran to the car, found a can of WD-40®, removed the plastic cap, and returned.  He wadded toilet paper inside the cap and shoved it in Kirk’s underwear, ingenious.

I overcame the spandex hunt and watched Kate’s team.  They muffed passes and ran a step behind their competition.  How hard is it to pass?  Just hit the ball.  I debriefed with Kate after one game while her teammates listened.  They issued a challenge.

“Coach Deanna scheduled us to play the parents.  See what it’s really like.”

I couldn’t ignore a provocation from the mouths of babes.  “You’re on.  I’ll score up to 12 goals.”

Game day came and the parents met with Coach Deanna for a pre-game speech.  Several of us had just arrived from work.  One dad wore jeans.  We’d play two 10 minute halves.  She encouraged us to pass the ball downfield and shoot at the goal.  She also warned the girls not to hack their parents.  “We need them at next week’s fundraiser.”

parent dad w jeansThe parent team included 40-year-old-ish moms and dads.  I duct-taped my love handles and strapped on knee braces. The moms cinched their sweatpants.  After a minute of play we encountered problems.  We couldn’t direct the ball, assuming we even hit it.  We whiffed like beginner golfers and potholed more turf than backhoe operators.  I assumed that my ice hockey experience gave me an advantage but I overlooked one critical rule: in field hockey players only shoot right-handed.  I’m a leftie.

We huffed across the field, north and south, east and west, hunched over our sticks.  Seven minutes later we begged for half-time.  The girls hadn’t broken a sweat. The game was scoreless but the parents needed a break.  And an oxygen bar with a masseuse.

The second half resumed with a refreshed parent team.  We scrambled, whiffed, and tripped.  Thus far we were outshot 97 to 3.  Our 0-0 tie lasted until a sophomore scored in the final seconds.    parent moms

I kept my promise of scoring up to 12 goals.  I scored none.  Unfortunately today, the older I get, the better I was.  One of Kate’s teammates soothed my ego while I unpeeled duct-tape.

“Hey, Kate’s dad… you did okay.”

Team sports mature the soul and teach critical life skills, like discernment.  I’m relieved Kate discerned not to use her killer instinct on me.  I would have otherwise made her walk home.

Hockey, whether played on a field or rink, is a great game.  It doesn’t matter that Kate can’t skate or whether I can shoot right.  What matters is that I’m spending quality time with my kid.


Feel free to comment.  Field hockey rocks!

40 thoughts on “Hockey Dad Plays Field Hockey Daughter in Annual Parent Game”
  1. This reminds me of a couple of experiences from my own kids athletic experiences and the parent against children games. The first was a baseball game against my son’s team. When parents batted the coaches oldest son, a high school student at the time, pitched for the little league team to make it more fair. I am pretty sure he was coached by his father to go easy on the parents. My first time at bat I saw a belt high pitch right down the middle of the plate that I promptly drilled to the base of the wall in left center field for a double. My second time up I strode to the plate full of confidence with dreams of where I would hit the ball this time. As I crawled back to the dugout after striking out on four pitches I realized I had been played for a sucker by a young man who was seeing what I could do the first time up and then showing me what he could do my second time up.
    The other experience that came to mind was parent/child basketball game against my son’s junior high team. Growing up in an era when bumping into opposing players was a foul and taking more than two steps without dribbling the ball was traveling, I did not play much basketball because those were my two primary strengths. I was also pretty good at tackling and fumble recoveries. Unfortunately these skills were better suited for football then basketball.
    After several minutes of play I was mysteriously having trouble breathing. One of my sons friends, a young man who was extremely quick and likely the best athlete in the school made a quick move past me to the basket. In my day I possessed better than average speed and athleticism and probably could have stayed with him. Unfortunately my day had come and gone a few birthdays ago. To avoid being humiliated by a 13 year old boy I did what any self-respecting adult would do. I put both hands in the middle of his back and gave him a shove. This action had the desired effect. He never got the shot off and slammed into the wall behind the basket.
    After I apologized for my actions and two quick free throws were made only seconds had elapsed. Not nearly enough time for me to recover from my mysterious breathing problem. Need I say we did not win? But as my memory recalls we did make a good game of it. Funny how memory can be selective sometimes.

    1. Thanks Steve,
      Yeah, I assumed that I’d need to tone down my competitive edginess when scrimmaging against a team of girls/daughters (e.g. handle them with kid gloves). But they were tougher than studded snow tires! And fast. That’s the last time I make assumptions. I was able to play well though, I was as good once as I once was, even if only for 7 minutes. Was fun to get out there. Eric

  2. Similar experience. Different sport. Sabotage.

    Kids. As if they don’t have it all already. They know they get a trophy before the season even begins. Eric and Kirk remember when trophies were earned or in many cases not.

    Our drama is the soccer pitch for the parent-kid “friendly” at the end of the season. The moms and dads are holding their own, and even up a goal, until a mom takes over goalie duties. Had it been my 7 year old daughter, who couldn’t catch well, playing goalie at the time both shots would have been easily deflected. The fragile egos of the kids weighed heavily on the mom’s soul and miraculously two slow rolling dribblers found their way over the end line.

    “They had to win,” I was told by several moms. Not a single dad agreed. Such is life today. My prize was cold pizza but the soda still had some fizz! I won after all.

    1. For sure I definitely remember earning trophies. This parent team hustled like crazy and our kids didn’t give us any slack, we didn’t expect it anyway. It wouldn’t have been as much fun if they went easy on us. At the end of the day it got the kids talking to/with their parents. Imagine that. Great comments, thanks. Eric

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  4. Perhaps the girls’ killer instincts are subdued because of their pre-game music selections. Plug in some Ozzy, AC-DC, or Metallica. That’ll remove all politeness from their play.

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